A great session for us executive coaches and leadership/business coaches on coaching, leadership, mindfulness & LIFE!
Great to hear Jan stress on #LifePurpose. And Viktor Frankl (‘one of the best books’, Man’s Search for Meaning), came up more than once (a personal favorite).
‘We can’t influence stimuli. But we can influence the reaction. Between the stimuli and the reaction is the freedom of choice‘ -Dr. Frankl
Every ‘no’ is the beginning of a ‘YES’!
- Steve Jobs always challenged the status quo, perhaps aligned with his #lifePurpose!
- People are not rational, but emotional.
- I have always struggled with it in our coach training/mentoring. Is it rational + emotional or mutually exclusive!
- Deep, transformational coaching has to go beyond rational to the emotional space.
- Jan quoted what Dr. @DanielGoleman saying for over 20 years, ‘20% IQ and 80% EQ to understand other people’. ‘But what have we done about it’?
- A personal favorite is IQ to EQ to Spiritual Quotient (SQ), though all IQ present is a small measure for transformational leadership! #IQ2EQ2SQ
- Here & Now, Self-Awareness, deep breathing (to the count of 5), attachment Vs detachment/Buddha, etc all made it deeply spiritual
- Physical, Emotional, Mental, Spiritual – are at the core of what we believe we are trying to do, and hopefully aligned with our #LifePurpose!
- Meditation, Yoga and other mindfulness practices will make me a better coach (for the coachee)
- 5 elements: Positive People, Purpose, Process, Place (happiness & success in balance) and Performance
We are beings…! (Indeed, as Master would add, ‘we all are beings on a spiritual pilgrimage’)
- Happiness is in making others happy – as Bill Gates found, esp with his Foundation
- something all great leaders and spiritual teachers have taught us.
- The ancient Veda says, ‘Paropakarartham idam shareeram’ – the purpose of the human body is to serve others.
- As coaches we are blessed to be able to serve leaders
- The concept of #FLOW was brought in to explain the interconnectedness of the elements of the webinar.
How to stay in FLOW was a great question:
- Seek constant feedback
- Novelty (Jan taking different routes for his running was a good example, something we are aware but doesn’t necessarily put into practice?!)
- Challenge (indeed, being out of the comfort zone, at times is key to #DisruptingYourself positively
- Subconscious (being aware of the power of the subconscious?!)
- Journaling ( a good idea to capture #FLOW moments, then and there) – It is a good idea to carry a physical notebook and pen/if not a digital notepad always, to capture not only ideas, inspiration, but also ‘FLOW moments’!
We lose energy while in FLOW. Hence the need to have a good recovery mechanism! (This took me by surprise. In #FLOW I thought we don’t lose energy, with little effort!)
- ‘U’-GROW is Jan’s coaching model (‘U’ being uniqueness. We all are indeed unique, whether kids or clients)
- Our coaching model is GROW + ‘L’ – Light being self-actualization! REGA_L, that is!
His suggestion to think of as soon as you get up was a very important reminder, that I would put into practice with immediate effect
- 3 things looking for in the day
- 3 things you are grateful for
ReflectiveJournaling2Regal (RJR) is an important part of everything we do – 1-1/group coaching or coach training/mentoring or consulting. A lot of great takeaways… A lot to reflect upon…. and journaling 🙂
PS: Now we know why German soccer team is better than their British counterparts :))
PC-Pixabay & WBECS
Great write up, captures the essence of Coaching.
As the practice of Coaching (Life or variants thereof) is gaining popularity in this part of world (MENA region), the need for certification is more important.
ICF is doing a lot of great work. But if the customer (individual/corporate/others) does not insist on certification as one of the primary requirements while choosing a coach, he/she is deprived of best results.
A coaching mindset is essential for anyone to ‘BE’ a coach. Long term success will depend on that and also effort to learn, continuously. ICF Certifications, CCEUs et al.
The basic assumption being the client knows everything, is complete, makes it very spiritual. I am fascinated by that too.
India is celebrating… long weekends! Twice in this month! Long week-end, and a looooong post ☺
August 15th to 18th – Independence Day to Janmashtami (Sri Krishna’s birthday). Gods are smiling on us again. Yet another long weekend, though not ‘as long’. Aug 29th to 31st.
Stating the obvious, most of these public holidays are ‘holy-days’, being related to festivals. I rate even Independence Day and Gandhi Jayanthi as holy-days. For our freedom fighters were not looking at liberation from the British alone, but also within. And Gandhiji was at the forefront with his emphasis on Truth & Righteousness.
These holy-days give us an opportunity to look within, connect with our Higher Consciousness (Hi C) – we may call the HiC through various names – God, Krishna, Jesus, Allah, Ganesha, Sai, Durga, Master, Guru, et al. Master says, ‘The easiest means to achieve love for God is to worship God as having a form’. He also quickly reminds, Worship of God is of three important types: Satvic, Rajasic and Tamasic. Loosely translated, Divine, Humane and Devil level. I was surprised to see classification of worship as S/R/T, I must confess! I thought worship was always naturally at Satvic. But not so ☺
• Level 3/Devil/Tamasic Level: In the Tamasic form of worship, the individual prays to God but continues violence, anger and pomp, causing pain. Any worship that is done for the sake of name, fame, with pomp and ego is called the Tamasic worship.
• Level 2/Human/Rajasic Level: Rajasic worship is done for the sake for fulfilling selfish interests and to attain great heights in one’s life. Devotion with the feeling that one alone should be safe, happy and should be blessed involves utter selfishness. Such a devotee does not even aspire or think about the well being of the family or the society.
• Level 1/Divine/Godly/Satvic Level: A Satvic devotee performs all daily tasks to please God, with total surrender and offers all tasks performed during the day as loving service to God.
I am not considering animals/birds or Nature here. I find them closer to Level-1! So, every time I do an act of worship or Sadhana, I have a choice to opt for the level – 1, or 2 or 3. If it is ritualistic, a level we often get used to, it is not at level-1.
I am also aware, as human being, I am blessed with the discrimination to make the right choice.
A post on worship is incomplete without the quote, ‘Work is Worship. Duty is God’. One of my favorite and a constant reminder to aim for excellence (level-1) in any work I do. When I able to tune in to that awareness, innovation, quality, customer enchantment are integral, continuous. For my goal is not level-2, which is very good. For example, I am currently reaching out to friends to inform them (promote) my upcoming training program. I am sending personalized messages, with minor modification to a template. But when I tune-in, I am able to keep fine-tuning and do the repetitive, boring activity with awareness… almost meditative!
This is applicable to everyone, irrespective of the nature of wok, is it not? Whether we are a corporate executive, entrepreneur, self-employed, retired, student, homemaker or a worker.
– A worker/manager/entrepreneur has a choice to make it to the best possible level (six sigma quality), innovative, to ensure customer (external & internal) enchantment.
– A student has a choice to do his duty – to study, play, et al at level-1. Lot easier, I guess?
– A retired senior-citizen has (less years and) more time to contemplate on HiC. So perhaps easier to tune-into level-1 always, to stay at that level of consciousness. But this also comes from practice and how we managed our childhood and youth, or the earlier three Purusharthas!
– A homemaker can convert her/his cooking to cleaning to Satvic worship.
Of course, level-1 naturally takes care of sustainability, CSR and environment, is it not? For, Nature is manifestation of Divine.
So, every act we do, we have a choice – to make it worship, at level 1/2/3! When we are more often at Satvic level, #Abundance is a natural outcome. So, even abundance is a choice we make…
What are your thoughts? How are you spending your holy-days? At what level you do your ‘work’ – Tamasic, Rajasic or Satvic?
A level-1 musical offering to Divine! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihic3AqopZk&list=PL4607F8ECA2080701#t=95
This topic has been trending in the media & social media.
Nooyi’s candor is very inspiring, as she does not sugar coat the difficulty to ‘balance’ work/life or manage multiple roles. I was touched by her ability to display vulnerability. That ability perhaps makes her a leader with difference.
As I read through the report, one thought stuck to me. What would have been different if she had hired a Coach? Wonder if she has a Coach!
She has Coaching as one of her popular 5Cs, being her roadmap to success: Competency, Courage & Confidence, Consistency, Compass & Coaching. (MIT Sloan)
A Coach would have been a good sounding board for her, at different stages in life.
A good Coach would have helped her to handle her 3R’s (Regret, Resentment & Reject), in a holistic way.
PS: Friends in corporate world, it is never too late to hire a coach – an experienced, certified/credentialed one, only.
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It is appraisal time!!! So many friends in corporate world (senior) are sad about its impact on team dynamics and personal confidence.
Bell Curve is more like The Duckworth-Lewis Method in cricket. (If not worse!) Everyone is aware of its imperfections. But for want of a better alternative, everyone hangs on to it.
Thankfully, some global companies, known to be people-oriented, are taking the courage to dump it.
Till such time a “new, improved” method (with all its jargon & complications) comes on scene, we got to see if we can be more professional and at the same time empathetic to staff. It is not impossible to look at some simple methods, within organisations, that will suit them better. It need not be complicated, to confuse intelligent folks at an organisation.
Simplicity is a great virtue!
Let us treat employees as ‘human beings’, at its holistic level!